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Management

Dr. Conflict Is In

Ruth McCambridge
February 3, 2010
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As you might imagine, I am a member of a number of list servs and most of the time I simply monitor them for interesting topics and resources we can pass along to our readers but over the past day or so one of them blew up into an online battle where accusations, mollifications, diatribes and apologies have followed one after another even into the wee hours of the morning. This has happened in this particular forum a few times before. Every now and then someone chimes in with a “can’t we all just get along?” but the conflict has achieved its own momentum apparently entirely disconnected from any sense of real importance to the world.

Of course, email is like a tool of the devil when it comes to fanning flames of misunderstanding but I am always shocked at how publicly out of control such stuff can get.

This kind of highly personalized fracas over things that no one else cares much about is a time-honored tradition among intellectuals and I am not suggesting that it is entirely useless but watching it when so many things are at risk in our communities is difficult. Long story short though, my personal tactic is to wait for it to go away (which can take a week or more on this particular forum). The best face on my behavior is that it is a kind of “pick your battle” approach. The less attractive face is that I am recently a disengager when it comes to emotionally fraught conflict. Again for those who know me, this reticence is fairly recent and does not extend to political battles.

The Nonprofit Quarterly’s Dr. Conflict is a master of helping people understand the best way to approach their particular clashes. I am including a link to the most recent column here so you can get a sense of his erudite style. I invite you to submit your own question about a quarrel you are in or are avoiding or fear you may have handled badly.

Meanwhile, I will try not to rubberneck at the accident occurring in slow motion on the list serv in question.

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About The Author
Ruth McCambridge

Ruth is the founder and Editor Emerita of the Nonprofit Quarterly. Her background includes forty-five years of experience in nonprofits, primarily in organizations that mix grassroots community work with policy change. Beginning in the mid-1980s, Ruth spent a decade at the Boston Foundation, developing and implementing capacity building programs and advocating for grantmaking attention to constituent involvement.

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