How the Marriage Equality Shift Happened: It’s All About the Grassroots Action

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A few days ago I was listening to the radio nonstop on the issue of same-sex marriage, not necessarily for the play-by-play of the justices’ reactions but for some of the commentary, which, for once, was very interesting. One of the things that was being discussed was the fact that in many cases, even though such matters are treated as issues of law, cultural mores and public sentiment definitely factor into the considerations of the court on issues of human and civil rights.

What it has taken to shift the culture around same-sex marriage and civil and human rights in general has been an enormously personal endeavor that should teach us a lot about how to move a society from one emotional – and then legal – stance to another.

This article from John Hoffman today discusses what forms grassroots action has taken in this tender realm, and his observations are profound. Let us know how you think the lessons learned can or are being translated and used in other social movements.

Meanwhile, the other day I was talking with a relative who said that he was riding by a public building on the first day that same-sex marriages were allowed in his state; and although he never was in favor, he said the sight of all the happy couples shifted him, just like that.

It’s amazing what empathy can do once the barricades of fear are taken down.

  • Jean-Jacques Burlamaqui

    Same-sex marriage is an injustice, a tyrannical ploy being perpetrated upon our society of which the pernicious consequences are simply mocked and laughed at by its supporters. Ignorance and prejudice have taken the place of knowledge and reason. Caprice and passion substituted for prudence and virtue. The happiness of society, the good of all families, and the welfare of mankind fall victim to unjust selfish love, calculating every thing for itself while taking no notice of a child’s best interest or the public advantage of the government promoting ONLY the traditional family.

    In the eyes of a child, same-sex marriage appears adulterous by nature. Someone is not present in his/her home who is his/her true mother or father. No good can come from adultery. At best, a virtuous heterosexual man and woman can soften the evil sustained by children from adultery, but same-sex proponents want their adulterous families to be considered normal and “equal” to a monogamous heterosexual marriage…. which study after study has proven to be the best environment for childrearing. There is simply no virtue in ignorance, or in denying truth.

    Here are two truths regarding marriage: (1) Creating a family with another man is not equal to creating a family with a woman, and (2) denying children parents of both genders at home is an objective evil. Kids need and yearn for both.

    Same-sex marriage in unconformable to the state of a rational social being, it is defective in principle, and has ONLY a deceitful appearance to young and old because it denies Natural Law. All children eventually figure out that it takes a man and a woman to bring a new life into the world.

    At school, those kids who have two mothers or two fathers will be different, and the other children will notice that the same-sex family child is different in many ways. Besides the obvious exclusion of either a mother or a father at home, a same-sex marriage child is deprived of both gender role models at home and will undoubtedly act differently than other children of his/her gender and especially with regards to interacting with the opposite sex of his/her same-sex parents. It is without a doubt that these children will be seen as different by children who have a mother and a father at home, and especially if they have their biological parents at home.

    In order to protect the same-sex child from any perceived harassment, the child of a same-sex marriage will become a special protected class in the eyes of the government. School officials will have to punish and “educate” any child who “offends” the protected class child for simply thinking it is strange that the child of the same-sex marriage has either a mother or their father missing, or if any child perceives that the child of his/her gender coming from a same-sex marriage acts in an unusual manner to his/her own, and his/her contemporaries.

    This unjust punishment to well-rounded children is proof that same-sex families do not follow core principles of Natural Law, and because same-sex marriage defies Natural Law, pernicious consequences will inevitably happen. To punish a child for saying what he knows is true (all children have a mother and a father) is nothing less than a tyrannical oppression to children who instinctively rely upon Nature’s Laws to help them understand life and life’s circumstances. Children will be forced and coerced to accept or comply with unnatural behaviors and their instinctual knowledge of right and wrong will become internally challenged and confused. A confused child is more susceptible to evil and perversion than one who is sound in his knowledge of the facts of life. Evil-doers will have a hay day in a society that sees no inherent evil to children in same-sex marriage, but alas….those who support same-sex marriage have apparently fallen too far into the depravity of licentiousness themselves to realize or acknowledge the harm and injustice same-sex marriage imposes upon our society and our children.

    Marriage was instituted to protect the Natural Rights of children. Same-sex marriage tramples those rights in the name of “equality”.